So I got married…

Well I have finally gotten around to posting a blog about mine and Dane’s wedding hooray!

Guys having a wedding is no joke, Dane and I had 8 months to plan this event, which wasn’t a massive wedding but good lord it was a lot of work. Lot’s of late night crafting, amazon prime ordering, stressing, crying, shouting “let’s just elope” during every planning session, and dealing with everyone’s unwanted opinions and prying questions during that time is something I am thankful I’ll never have to endure again. But even with all the drama and stress the day was so worth it. Because it was more beautiful and special than I could’ve imagined, and for every troublesome person that caused strife there was a whole group of friends and family who reminded Dane and I that at the end of the day all that matters is we get to marry the loves of our life.

So many people helped make our wedding possible, friends let us use their property for our venue, the bridesmaids put together my bouquet, my brother and his wife bought my headwreath when a previous vendor had flaked on me, and friends helped my mother set up all the decor, gosh we were truly surrounded by some amazing people! You all made our Peter Pan themed wedding better than Disney could’ve managed, and we cannot thank you enough.

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A ridiculously massive shout-out to our phenomenal photographer Cody Kurtz! I honestly cannot recommend this guy enough, he met with Dane and I to fully get to know us as a couple and find out what kind of shots were important to us, and dude he knocked it out of the park.

Flowers were bought from Trader Joes gotta represent our workplace somehow 😉 also I spent less than $100 on our flowers holla!

Groomsmen tuxes from Menguin which I highly recommend, super easy, great customer service, and a heck of a lot cheaper than its competitors.

Bridesmaids dresses were from Unique Vintage, Mod Cloth, and JJ’s House.

My perfectly grey/blue dress was from MilaMira bridal. I will suggest when ordering from them order a size up, my dress was a tad too snug for me, thankfully my mom knew a tailor who was able to change the structure to a corset so I could wear my dress comfortably. But other than the sizing thing I have no complaints, they were wonderfully helpful answering questions, offering suggestions on fabric, and the dress came in a timely manner, which is amazing since their dresses are handmade!

I hope you all enjoyed a look at our wedding, and for those of you currently planning a wedding I will offer this little bit of advice. You do You! This day is about you guys as a couple, all the silly traditions, pushy relatives, pricey vendors etc can shush. I can happily look back on my wedding day with no regrets because Dane and I stayed true to ourselves.

Happy Saturday my loves.

 

 

A Very Unique Fashion Friday

Well hello my lovely readers. How have you been? Well I hope. I must say things with me have been pretty wonderful, lots of life changes seem to be happening all at once. Since we’ve last spoken I’ve moved into an apartment closer to work and my fella, I’ve had a birthday (24 now) got a raise at work whoop whoop, oh and ya…I GOT FREAKING ENGAGED! On February 12th I celebrated my birthday with my *then boyfriend* now fiance, we went to breakfast and he gave me the sweetest necklace of an acorn and thimble, if you’re a weirdo like me then you know the wonderful peter pan story that accompanies such a gift. Well after breakfast we went to work…sexy stuff I know. But it was the next day that made my birthday gift all the more special. I knew my sweet fella had a day long date planned and he seemed particularly excited about it so I thought I best dress the part, and I could think of no better company than Unique Vintage for my special birthday dress. I’ve always been a sucker for retro clothing and vintage dresses and particularly anything with a plentiful skirt, and if it just happens to be pale blue I have to have it. So it was a no brainer for me to pick the High Society Swing Dress… but oh man I could not have predicted how perfectly that dress would suit the day. Cause you see, my love had planned a peter pan themed scavenger hunt of sorts, and my dress is very reminiscent of Wendy.IMG_0423

In each little numbered box was a peter pan figurine and had a corresponding envelope with some sort of punny peter pan joke and instructions for which destinations to go to. The day started at my favorite coffee shop, then to one of my fave brunch spots, then we got pie cause anyone can do cake for a birthday but we all know pies really where its at, we then went to the butterfly gardens in Dallas which was beautiful, and then the last box and letter came for that one we were instructed to go to a park in downtown Plano. This park has always been dear to me, I celebrated my 8th birthday there and I remember seeing a couple get married in the gazebo and I think about them every birthday and how theyre doing…well it has now become a great deal nearer and dearer to me because this is where the love of my life asked me to marry him. The last box  had a single red feather in it

View More: http://gildedisle.pass.us/freaking-engagedme looking way too focused about putting a red feather in my babes beanie.

and the letter was the most beautiful heartfelt speech/proposal in the world…its just a shame I was too swept up in emotion to remember a word of what was said after the fact…sorry babe.

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Cardigan: Doll Me Up Darling

Necklace: Hooligan Alley

Dress: Unique Vintage Thank you thank you a million times over for making me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world on the happiest day of my life! It never ceases to amaze me how accurate UV’s size chart is and how flattering their cuts and choices of fabric are. I always feel like a princess in their pieces and I would imagine anyone else would too!

Shoes: Miz Mooz/Similar

Photography: The incredible Amanda of Gilded Isle Photography I just wanted to say thank you again to my love for knowing how important it was for this moment to be captured and for knowing no one could do a better job than Amanda. Girl these pictures my frosty personality melt into a puddle of feels! You’re the greatest!

So basically I’ve been living in a state of I cannot believe this is my life…and how does one even plan a wedding? Haha so forgive me for the lack of posting consistency and the abundance of mushy pictures and posts but hey I’m in love and I’m not the least bit sorry about that. Happy Friday my dears and I hope you all have a beautiful weekend and that you buy yourself that Unique Vintage outfit you’ve been eyeing…because hey ya never know when the love of your life could propose and your best friend could be hiding behind a tree documenting it all so you want to look your best 😉

Fashion Friday Get’s White Hot With Unique Vintage

Bonjour! How are you all doing? Thankfully it hasn’t been as long since we’ve spoken last, I really am going to try and keep with my posting schedule, but I can’t make any promises 😉

This week I am featuring Unique Vintage yet again… Yes I know I do a lot of features of UV clothes but I haven’t heard any complaints, and if I do…well I can’t say I’d care. I adore my UV Darlings!
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Just casually doing The Can Can during my shoot.

Hair Flower: A lovely handmade gift from Miss Amy May

Dress: Unique Vintage God bless the person who constructed this white cotton masterpiece. I can’t recall the last time I wore a dress that has made me as happy as this one. I can honestly say that I would be more than happy to get married in this dress (of course that’s not happening anytime soon haha) but seriously that’s just how beautiful I feel in this number. The bodice is slightly structured so no weird lumps and bumps from floppy fabric, and of course since its haltered you can adjust to your specification, The fit is so spot on, it basically feels like I custom fit. I think this might be one of the most flattering silhouettes I’ve ever worn, even with my less than average proportions the size chart was incredibly accurate. Now talking about sizing here comes the sad news, I snagged this number during a sale and as everyone knows dresses that go on sale always run out of sizes so right now they only have medium 😦 but the good news is its still on sale for $50 so if medium is your size by all means snatch this dress while you still can! Also you ladies who are not medium don’t think for one second I’m neglecting you, I think this dress could make an excellent substitution.

Shoes: Miz Mooz/Similar

I hope you all enjoyed this post and that you check out Unique Vintage. Happy Friday my loves!

Fashion Friday Featuring Unique Vintage

Hello my lovely readers, how are all of you? I know its been absolute ages since I’ve posted anything! I’ve missed all of you and I’ve missed blogging. My life has undergone a few new changes mainly a new job (Hallelujah) so adjusting to my busier schedule has taken a bit, but here is hoping I’ve finally got things sorted so more regularly scheduled posts will happen! Okay enough of my excuses 😉 now onto this weeks feature!

The one the only Golightly Dress from Unique Vintage.

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Dress: Unique Vintage The Golightly is made up of everything I love in a dress: 100% cotton, available in a variety of colors and patterns, flattering to all shapes and sizes, true to fit, has adjustable straps, a full skirt that is just begging for a hearty twirl, as well as some seriously adorable details going on, I mean just look at that bow, and best of all POCKETS!!!! Does anything top that? I’m seriously enamored with this dress, I love how easy this little number can be dressed up or down, and I know for certain its going to transition into fall and winter seamlessly. As I stated before this dress is true to size, but since my proportions are a bit off I found the waist to be a bit loose on me, so I threw on a belt to cinch it in and that works just fine, so if you have a similar shape but are worried about sizing no need to fret with just a tad of accessorizing or even alterations you’ll be golden. Oh also the Golightly in the red colourway and the navy and white gingham (which I own) are currently discounted so I say you oughtta snag yourself one while you still can.

Belt: H&M

Shoes: Miz Mooz/Similar

I hope you all enjoyed this post and that you have a wonderful weekend! Happy Friday my loves!

Fashion Friday Featuring Unique Vintage and Serious Body Confidence.

Hello my darlings, I am so sorry its been absolute ages since I’ve posted anything, life just doesn’t seem to want to calm down for me. However I now have a post to share with you all.

While on vacation in MD I was finally able to bust out my gorgeous UV swimsuit and thanks to my beautiful photographer friend Amanda we were able to capture some really great pics to share with all of you.

Now I have never done a post like this before, and by like this I mean one where I am seriously “exposed”. More often than not my fashion posts are of me wearing retro styled super modest dresses, not necessarily because I’m self conscious but because thats what I feel most comfortable in. But I loved this suit so much I had to share. I was not always the confident girl I have trained myself to be, hell I used to not dress pinup for fear of people staring, so the idea of posting pictures of myself in a swimsuit on the web is currently baffling shy Sarah. But like I said I love this suit…and amazingly I love me and my body. Ya there are bits I am working on to change but even now I totally dig myself. My stomach is not flat at all, my arms could stand some toning up, and yes my legs have cellulite and I jiggle but my body is beautiful all the same. Also this suit is just another example of how amazing Unique Vintage is, this company really caters to women of all sizes. Real women have curves, no curves, and everything in between. But the one thing we all have in common is the desire to feel beautiful and have clothes fit us well, so props to you UV for once again getting it right.

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Hair Flower: Gift from MissAmyMay

Sunglasses: Forever 21

Swim Top: Unique Vintage So turns out you can actually get swim tops that support, cover, and looks super cute…well at least you can when you buy one from UV that is. I wouldn’t necessarily categorize myself as busty but for some reason I always had trouble finding a top to actually fit,that was until I experienced the beauty that is the Casablanca swim top. When it came to sizing I went by cup size rather than band width because that can always be altered, but cups not so much. As a 36 D the large top fit beautifully without any need of alterations and I couldn’t be happier.

Swim Bottoms: Unique Vintage These bottoms are life, they are fierceness, they are the best swim bottoms in existence and anyone who says differently is a dirty liar 😉 I have long adored the high waisted swimsuits but I could never find one that didn’t cut me weird due to my long torso, honestly most “high waisted” bottoms looked more like granny panties as they came up to just under my belly button, ew just ew. But these UV bottoms are long enough for my torso, have a decent amount of support for a smoother look, and *hallelujah chorus* they cover ones backside. Seriously man sand gets everywhere I don’t want to be cheeky at the beach thanks. So if you’re anything like me you’ll take comfort in knowing Unique Vintage has your back…side haha.

Portraits: The marvelous Amanda of Gilded Isle Photography Honestly this lady’s talent speaks for itself, her work impeccable, and she is so brilliant at putting one at ease and making a shoot a fun experience. Seriously you should hire her for all your portrait needs!

So there you have it guys, Unique Vintage is perfect yet again and you should really check em out, and Gilded Isle is the best photography business that ever existed so hire them. Hope you all enjoyed this post and that you have a happy Friday my loves.

Fashion Friday Featuring Unique Vintage

Hello my dears I’m so happy its Friday aren’t you? This week I am sharing all about my gorgeous Jane Doe dress I got on sale from the always darling Unique Vintage.

As you probably know Unique Vintage is of my favorite companies, the variety of stock they carry is unbelievable, their customer service is extraordinary, and there is always some sort of sale happening. But more than that this company has a beautiful soul, I’ve never seen a company so invested in their customers, they’re always posting incredibly sweet comments and promoting diversity and body positivity. Honestly it makes me a little bit teary eyed when I think about how much love and support there is in the UV Darling community. So many brands feel so absent from their work, too much corporate and not enough kindness, that is a statement you could never make about UV. So if you’re looking to buy from a company you can believe in Unique Vintage is it.

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Shoes: Restricted Shoes

I hope you all enjoyed this post and that you check out Unique Vintage and Queen of Heartz the best companies around! Happy Friday!

Lil Lou Lou Pt 2.

Well hearty hello to you all, I hope you’ve all had a good week. Today on the blog I have Pt 2. of my Lil Lou Lou feature. If you already read Pt 1 then you know it was love at first sight for me and this stellar brand. Seriously this company is everything I love; wonderful designs, quality construction, friendly service, and USA manufactured goods.090709911048110010621011 Bandana: Lil Lou Lou Oh so darling yet oh so sturdy. The Rosie bandana is made from 100% cotton and has been sewn and hemmed in such a way that it wont wrinkle and crumple like traditional bandanas so often do. Basically it is the perfect headwrap for a girl who doesn’t want to spend ages trying to get her “rosie” do just right, you seriously just throw it on and voila, adorable hair! Blouse: H&M/Similar Jeans: Old Navy Flats: Payless/Similar 117411181242130212821226Sunglasses: Unique Vintage Blouse: Ann Taylor/Similar Belt: Vintage/Similar Skirt: Lil Lou Lou to put it simply this skirt completes me. I just cannot get over how much fabric there is, anyone who knows me knows I love a full skirt and believe you me Lil lou lou delivers. One thing Lil Lou lou also delivered was a novelty print I actually love, usually novelty prints just look too sloppy or childish for me to get on board with them, but this skirt has made me a believer in beautiful and fun novelty prints. First off its blue…and for some reason most of my favorite pinup pieces are blue, and the undergarment advertisements that make up the print add just the perfect amount of sass for me. Like I said before this skirt completes me. Flats: Payless/Similar I hope you all enjoyed this post and that you get yourself some fabulous goodies from Lil lou lou! Happy Friday my dears.

If I Could Do Prom Over

Well its that time of year again, when all the department stores start busting out their formal dresses for prom, and in turn make me feel old and wish I had done my proms a little differently. Now my prom experiences are probably slightly different than most, because I was homeschooled. But being that I lived in the DFW metroplex I was able to go to the Texas Christian Homeschool Prom. It was a surprisingly large event, there were about 1000 kids there and the decorations and everything were quite beautiful, so if you’re a homeschooled kid who lives close to Dallas and want to experience a fairly traditional prom this is definitely something to look into (be warned though the music choices aren’t brilliant and the rules are very strict).

I have to admit I still have a few prom regrets, no not like those kinds of regrets, get your minds out of the gutter 😉 Mainly I regret going the super TRADITIONAL route in my attire, I went with a floor length black dress from Davids Bridal and whereas yes its not the kind of dress I’m ever going to think eeew what was I thinking, its definitely not what I would pic for myself now. I should’ve bought a dress from Unique Vintage  and I should have done my own hair, $60 only to have my hair fall was quite the rip off just sayin.

So if I could do prom over again what kind of dress would I choose you might ask? Well here are just a few ideas

brendaThe Brenda $122 I actually own this dress in the red colorway and the skirt on this dress is nothing short of heavenly, so to wear it in navy paired with some pearls would make the perfectly timeless and highly elegant prom look.two heartzThe Two Heartz Dress $158 Hot cha cha! This dress definitely makes a statement and the statement is pure sass! I love this dress so much I’m tempted to make a grown ups only prom!

natayaThe Nataya $224 Positively Flaptastic! Wearing this 1920’s style beauty with some t-strap heels, a dramatic smokey eye, and a faux bob is one of the best ways to stand out from the crowd if you ask me.first dateThe First Date Dress $102 This dress is beyond sweet but never childish! I’d love to see this dress paired with a fabulous poodle do!

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Bergman Maxi Dress $148 For those of you who want to embody the glamour of Old Hollywood! All this dress needs is some veronica lake waves and little bit of smolder to really create the affect.

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Polka Dot Garden State Dress $138 Oh this dress though, is there any color more quintessentially spring than mint? Maybe mint paired with a hot pink hair flower and some gorgeous pincurls?

Ya I would really love to do prom over and pick a statement dress from UV. So if you’re about to go to your prom pick that stellar dress you love and don’t give two cents of care if it breaks tradition. There’s a time and a place for traditional, but when you’re in your teens and about to leave highschool it is not the time to cower into the sea of sameness! Besides how many proms do you get anyway? Have fun, be young, and most importantly be your darling self! Happy dress hunting and Happy Wednesday!

In Your Easter Bonnet…

Hallelujah it is spring (for those of you still dealing with freezing temps I’m sorry) but here in TX we’ve thawed nicely and to me nothing signifies spring more than warmer weather, easter Sunday, and lovely spring dresses. So before you head out to the overrun department stores to buy your Easter duds, check out a few of these options I’ve already picked  for you that can be bought in the comfort of your own home. Because who doesn’t like shopping in their jammies?

 

Unique Vintage.

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Dress 1 Blue Chiffon Swing  Dress 2 Mustard Polka Dot  Dress 3 Black and White Floral

Queen of Heartz.

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Pinup Girl Clothing.

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Dress 1 Maria Purple Floral Dress 2 Yellow Molly Dress 3 Cream Floral Vamp

 

So what do you guys think? Any of these dresses make it onto your must purchase list? Are you as excited for spring aka dress season as I am? I’d love to hear from you so be sure to drop me a line even if its just to say hi. Happy shopping and Happy Wednesday.

#iamunique

Hello my dears its been a while since I’ve posted anything that wasn’t a strictly fashion post. Yes this one will have to do with fashion but I promise it will be so much more than that.

One of my favorite companies in the world: Unique Vintage has started a campaign I could not be more pleased with. The #iamunique  campaign encourages people to really love themselves for who they are. Basically you use the hashtag and talk about what makes you different and why you love yourself for it…Sure it sounds simple enough but openly stating your truest self and your rawest emotions can be a little scary especially on the interwebs, where kindness, understanding, and acceptance aren’t exactly a common theme. But I felt called to take the plunge and put myself out there.

Basically I used to wear what was “in” and pretend to enjoy the things that “everyone else” did and in turn was miserable, truly miserable. By wearing what was “in” I felt ugly because #iamunique I have a less than common figure and most clothes aren’t designed to flatter someone with short yogi legs, a ridiculously long torso, and line backer shoulders. I only wish I could go back in time and talk to little Sarah who was crying in dressing rooms wishing to be like everybody else and tell her how happy she would become the moment she embraced her truest self.

I have loved the pinup style for most of my life, even at the age of 4 I worshiped Audrey Hepburn and her flawless glamour. But since pinup was considered over the top by so many I had resigned myself to boring socially acceptable clothes for far too many years. I was denying who I really was everytime I bought myself a pair of skinny jeans and a graphic t-shirt. But all of the denial stopped the very moment I slipped on my Unique Vintage wiggle dress “just for kicks”. Needless to say I bought the dress, but honestly it was so much more than that, it felt like I had bought myself the freedom to be ME.
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By realizing how right I was about my fashion choices I carried that same confidence into other areas of my life. I no longer pretended to enjoy the music that everyone else was listening to, I would unashamedly tell people my big plans for the weekend consisted of  of staying home baking, marathoning Doctor Who, and and snuggling my dog, and if I found something funny I would laugh my witchy cackle and maybe snort a little too. I was no longer ashamed of who I was. I loved me and I didn’t have to fit societies rules to do so.

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I’m not like everybody else and that’s okay, in fact its more than okay, Its fan-freaking-tastic! By being my truest self I have had so many opportunities open up to me, I’ve become bolder, braver, happier and the people who have chosen to love me for the real me are absolutely irreplaceable. In all honesty I probably wouldn’t have half the friends I do now if I hadn’t started dressing pinup. I discovered myself, and a community of so many beautiful hearts and minds. I just want to extend a huge thank you to Unique Vintage for starting this campaign of self love as well as to my wonderful pinup community that inspires me daily and reaffirms me. Like I said in my #iamunique insta post “yes I am unique but that doesn’t mean I don’t belong”.