Dating Advice From A Super Single Girl

This one’s for the guys!Seems like I am a little out of my league here huh? I’m single, so who am I to tell people how to date? Well like the old saying goes “Those who can’t do, teach”. I am also a girl so who am I to tell guys what to do? Consider this, wouldn’t you want a sneak peek at your opponents play book? Think of my mind as the play book for girls. Of course I cannot speak for all girls, but me and my friends all seem to agree on these things.

Tip 1. Be a gentleman.

Seriously I shouldn’t even have to say this. Being a gentleman is something one does all the time, not just when they are trying to win over some girl. I have heard guys say “Well I will be a gentleman when she is a lady” congratulations two wrongs totally make a right, you’re so smart…Except that you are not, a true gentleman will be the same towards unclassy females as he is to royalty! There is nothing more attractive in my eyes than a man with real manners and morals! So stay classy 😉

Tip 2. When we say we want a sensitive man we do not mean that we want a cry baby.

Honestly this is where I find myself having a lot of trouble with guys, they can be really great guys and fun to be around (for the most part) but they have a tendency to be a tad too emotional for my liking. When we say someone sensitive, we mean we want a guy who is sensitive to how he ought to act during certain situations. Like if we are having an ugly day, we want a guy who sensitive enough to not make a crack about our appearance. Not someone who crumbles, when during a verbal sparring match, you one up him. I have brothers and I grew up around guys mostly, so sarcastic comments are how I respond most of the time, just think of how when you were little if you liked a girl you picked on her relentlessly, it’s essentially the same way I operate 😉 If a man cannot handle a joke he certainly cannot handle the difficulties life throws at couples, so said man shall be passed over.

Tip 3. Know the difference between arrogance and confidence.

The picture suited the tip, please do not get political on me 🙂

Arrogance is defined as : An attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions.

Confidence is defined as : Faith or belief that one will act in right, proper, or effective way.

Arrogance is tiresome to be around, and confidence is not only a joy to be around it is also inspiring to be around. So which of the two would you rather be, tiresome or joyfully inspiring?

tip 4. Be straightforward.

Now of course do not be scary and say something like I want to father your children, because it could very well land you prison, or at the very least leave you with a face full of mace. But seriously if you like someone just ask them out. Faint heart never one fair lady is cheesy and overused but it’s quite true. Just sitting around hoping that she will one day realize how much you like her is not a good plan…Honestly even if she does know she probably wont do anything about it, because a guy is the one who is supposed to be the pursuer! But that’s old-fashioned and anti-feminist! Yes exactly, and who tends to be the best examples of happy couples? The elderly, those who were raised with old-fashioned morals. Take cue from them, after all the worse thing that could happen is that she will say no, and you wont date her, but honestly not asking her out is producing the same result as a no.

Tip 5. Possibly one of the most cliché tips of all time…Be yourself!

Look I know its cliché but has anyone ever heard of an imitation that was as valuable as the original? No! It may also seem contradictory to end a blog where I have been telling you what to do with “be yourself” but all of my tips were honestly about making you the best you possible. It’s like exercise, you’re still the same person, but you have improved what you were born with. You cannot be happy in a relationship if you are not first happy with yourself. I am well aware that all of this sounds like an episode of Oprah, were we all get in touch with our emotions, and its all kind of sickening, but its true. So love yourself or I will punch you in the face haha 😉

I hope you all enjoyed this post, and if you have any feedback or advice that you would like to share, please do. I love to hear from you all. Have a happy Halloween, and for those of you not celebrating Happy Wednesday!!!

Lifting Your Spirit.

 This past week I was going through a bit of a blue funk, you know the ones that show up for no real reason, and seem to just suck the life out of you? No one likes to be unhappy…but I am one of those people who really can’t stand it, I feel whiny and obnoxious as heck. So I decided to lift my spirits with a few simple techniques, and I am feeling so much better that I thought I might share these tips with all of you.

Realize how you feel is temporary and that you are going to get over it.

Things will get better I promise.

Treat yourself to something special…no I am not saying turn into someone who fills the void in their life with things. I am saying indulge a little, nothing too crazy but something you don’t always do.

I treated myself to some Starbucks…I basically never go to starbucks so it was nice to indulge in some chocolate beverage therapy.

Laugh! Laughter is the best medicine after all. 

I watched Jim Gaffigan’s comedy special Mr Universe and laughed my head off.

Then I watched The Marx brothers’ movie Duck Soup! I laughed so hard my stomach hurt…that’s just how hilarious this movie is. I would highly recommend this movie to anyone!

Get some sun.

Since the season Texas currently is in is Hell… oops I mean summer I kept the sunning to a minimum (less than 5 minutes) even though I was not able to stay out in the sun for very long I immediately noticed an improvement in my mood.

Get movin!

Now if running is not your thing take a walk or jog, but get out and get moving. Trust me the endorphins are totally worth it.

Socialize!

There is nothing like friends to lift your mood. Even if you’re not able to actually go and see your friend/friends call them up and chat. Never have I talked/hung out with friend and found myself upset afterwards, friends are great for listening to your problems and bringing you past them!

I hope you found some of this information to be helpful, and if any of you have some mood lifting techniques feel free to share. Happy Monday love you guys!