Single and Knowing Your Own Worth

Being a single person you can certainly get bombarded with clichés. There are the “supportive you’ll find someone eventually” clichés… It will happen when you least expect it, or just stop looking and they’ll find you. Then there are the other clichés, “the not so hopeful relationships are overrated” clichés, trust me you’re not missing out on anything, or it’s better because you don’t have to care. I don’t have to care? Are you kidding me? Honestly the main pit fall for single persons is that we care too much! We so desperately want to love someone and have them love us we jump heart first! The results are almost always disastrous! Falling too hard and too fast is something that is glorified in movies, books, and music, yet is completely inappropriate, and honestly horrifying for the other person in real life.

Too hard too fast!!!

I certainly know a thing or two about falling too hard and too fast. My first experience with this was probably around the age of 15, horrible age no? He was older, cooler, seemed to like me too, and was oh so cute. We talked a long while, and it seemed like he should make a move any day now and ask me out. Well he didn’t, he ignored me completely, then got himself a girlfriend (weird enough she sort of looked like me). I was crushed! I wondered what I did wrong, why didn’t he like me, and all the other things that cross a heartbroken 15 year olds mind. I eventually realized what he did was downright rude and I was much better off without him.

I wasn’t this mean…I just thought it was really funny.

Then  I was around 18 and a new guy came along…he was older, cooler, and crazy cute too. He and I talked a lot, sending messages to each other basically every other day, sharing our likes and dislikes, telling story after story, and asking question after question. I just “knew” things would work out for me this time, how could they not? He obviously liked me and we had soooo much in common! Well surprise surprise, things didn’t work out. He too gradually alienated me, no explanation, just a complete shut out. I was crushed again and couldn’t believe it! How could this be? We were so perfect for each other! Well this one took a long while to get over, ice cream and cookies were consumed, tears fell, and sad country songs were sung..horribly I might add, but I did eventually get over him. I realized it was through no fault of my own that things didn’t work out. I mean it hurt as bad as it did partly because I cared “too much”. But it wasn’t all my fault, and that felt great to know.

There have since been guys that caught my attention, as well as a bit of my heart. But obviously since I am still single it’s safe to say no relationship has worked out yet. I’m fine with it though, I really truly am! This doesn’t mean I have given up on the idea of eventually finding someone, it’s just I’m perfectly happy with my life. I don’t get anywhere near as devastated when things don’t go the way I wanted them too. Being single is not the worst thing in the world…the worst thing in the world is not knowing you own worth. I realized that’s why I had hurt so much when I was let down. I thought that it had must’ve been my fault. When in reality it wasn’t. I’m not saying that every relationship failure you have is not your fault, what I am saying though is learn from that experience, and know what you have to offer. Know your own worth, and enjoy your life to the fullest whether you’re with someone or not. I can expect to have my heartbroken a few more times because well… that’s life. But in the meantime I will be living it to the fullest, and will not be measuring my success in life by relationship status.

 What are some of the heartaches you’ve gone through? How did you get over them? Are you currently in the process of getting over someone? I would love some feedback on the topic, hearing from you guys is always a highlight of my day! Hope you all enjoyed the post, and wishing you all a very happy Monday!

Fashion Friday :)

Wow I am doing another Fashion Friday. I really liked this look so I though I would share. It was just such a lovely day here in Dallas, not too warm and not too cold, so that means a dress and layering day to me. So here it is.

Dress: Target. It was a Christmas gift a few years back.

Vest: Target. A hand me down from my sister-in-law. I always wanted an older sister for that reason 😉

Panty hose: Kohl’s.

Socks: Forever 21

Boots: Atwoods Home and Farm Supply. I got these babies on sale for about $60 which is almost unheard of!

Nose ring: Hot Topic…it’s a fake

Turquoise bracelet: A Native American Festival, I picked it up and loved it…but it was too small, so the sweet little Navajo grandma who made and sold the jewelry, added more beads and wire to it to make it fit me! How sweet!

Gold Bracelet: Family Heirloom.

Headwrap: I think my mom found it at a garage sale.

Earrings: Charlotte Russe. These were free, for every $15 you spent you were able to choose a piece of jewelry under x amount of dollars.

So I hope you all enjoyed this post! Wishing everyone a Happy Friday and fabulous weekend!

Why I Will Never Be Considered “Cool”

So let’s all be honest we have all tried extremely hard to be cool at one point in time, heck some of us are still trying to be “cool”. I think I must have been around 8 or so when I really started mimicking my peers in order to fit in, well sense that was when Britney Spears and belly shirts were the height of fashion, you can imagine that mom snapped me out of that one real fast haha. After that little incident, my mom was really pushing for me to be my own person. And I must say it worked, so thanks mom thanks for making me uncool. It’s just about the best thing that ever happened to me. So I thought I might list a few of my uncool qualities.

1. I am beyond old fashioned! Hey I may only be 20…but I am close to 80 years old in my views on life.

If my appearance matched my personality 😉

2. I find sports a form of public humiliation and torture. Growing up in a household of Texas boys this made me incredibly uncool.

I was always on the recieving end of any sports “accident”. Let’s just say having your arm pulled out of socket twice is a good limit. Thanks Michael and James!

3. My idea of current music is Johnny Cash.

“you kids turn that racket down I can’t stand that noise you call music!!!”

4. My idea of a party is… a tea party!

“I do declare Gertrude this is one of the most outrageous get togethers I have ever experienced”

5. I read and not because I have to.

“Is this what heaven looks like?”

6. I’m always a friend never a girlfriend.

Being a friend to the guys was not only “uncool” it made a lot of girls hate me!

7. I dance like Bill Cosby! Even when there is no music.

These are my mad dance skills. You jelly?

So all in all learn to embrace your own inner dork! You will be a much happier you.

Happy Wednesday Everyone!!!

Who? Me?

Wow I am 20! That really happened fast, honestly after age 15 my life kinda flew past me. Which got me thinking what a crazy conversation it would be if 20-year-old me were to speak to 15-year-old me. Young me would not believe all of the changes, like…

1. You have figured out what you want to do the rest of your life! And you don’t go to college to do it, so don’t let everyone pester you about how “You’ll never have a good career without college”.

 

2. You write…and actually enjoy it! Ya you have a blog and everything!

This may be one of the most shocking facts!

3. You jog, and get depressed if you don’t!

Ok so I may not look this fabulous whilst running, but I’m getting closer! But I was wrong before, THIS is the most shocking fact! haha.

 

4. Ya you know Mr. Perfect you are convinced you’re in love with right now? Turns out mom is right, he is a complete troll. But you learn about life, love, and yourself. So it all works out for you…Can’t say the same for him however.

 

5. Boyfriend? Fiance? Hahahaha no! You are married to work, and you’re cool with that. Turns out the overbearing brothers are now ok with you dating…mostly because you’re not.

 

6. You’re really happy! You still don’t have life figured out, but you are working it out. Goals are being accomplished, lifelong friends are being acquired, and lessons are being learned. Sure it’s tough at times but you have more confidence than you ever thought possible, and you have the best people around you!

So you have a lot to look forward to! Enjoy life and know there is much more to come.

 

I hope you guys all enjoyed this post. What are somethings that would shock younger you? I would love some feedback. Happy Monday!

 

I’ve got a crush on you.

Wow Valentines is coming up quite fast! And with that in mind I though I might do a little post on some of my celebrity crushes…not your traditionally attractive one’s though, I mean any girl with eyes can see Johnny Depp is oh so very handsome! I am talking about those crushes that you lie about having, because if anyone knew they would mock you endlessly. So because I don’t really care what people think and I enjoy a good laugh, even when it’s at my own expense, I thought I would post about my embarrassing celebrity crushes.

1.Jon Goodman.

I honestly think the main reason I find Jon Goodman so adorable is because he reminds me of my pop, he’s a big dude, with a great smile, awesome sense of humour, and fabulous voice…what’s not to love?

2.Mr. Rogers.

I was glued to the tv when Mr. Rogers was on! He was so sweet and his show was so entertaining!

3.Ty Burrell.

So I love the show Modern Family…It is beyond hilarious. But as I was watching it I realized something slightly frightening, I have an ever-growing crush on Ty Burrell! I mean he isn’t exactly unattractive, but he genuinely looks like he could be the father of one of my friends (I am not one of “those girls”) so in that sense my crush is a little embarrassing.

4.Ben Savage.

Anyone who watched Boy Meets World knows that Cory’s friend Shawn was the one all the girls loved. But not me, I was smitten with Cory, he was funny, awkward, adorable, and had super curly hair…just about everything I fall for.

5.Dick Van Dyke!

My first introduction to Dick Van Dyke was either Marry Poppins or Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, it was love at first sight is all I remember, I just love his sweet personality and that infectious smirk he has working for him.

I hope you guys got a kick out of this post, and feel free to share any of the embarrassing crushes you had or still have. Anyway Happy Tuesday. 🙂

 

Lessons to be learned from Disney Princesses!

Well I was talking about all the Disney princess movies, with my mom and little sister today, and got to thinking about all of the morals I never noticed before. So I thought I might share them with you today!

1. Cinderella.

Moral: The right shoes really can change your life for the better! 😉

2. Sleeping Beauty

Moral: People who say “you are sleeping your life away” are straight up wrong! I mean Aurora found the love of her life just by sleeping 😉

3.Jasmine

Moral: Having a pet tiger is really cool!

4. Snow white

Moral: Accepting food from strangers is a serious no no!

5. Ariel

Moral: Guys are happy enough just to have you around…So you don’t even have to talk to him 😉

6. Pocahontas

Moral: Falling in love with Mel Gibson is never a good idea!

7. Belle

Moral: It is tough work trying to change a man into a prince 😉

All of this was in good fun, so I hope I made you laugh. And hope everyone is having a happy Tuesday! Love you guys!

My Top Makeup No No’s!

As I sat watching tv, The Bachelor to be more specific, and I know I know the show is ridiculous but let’s face everyone could use a good laugh! I couldn’t help but notice all of the makeup offenses I cannot stand! So for the uninformed or for those of you looking for a laugh I thought I would post the don’t of makeup!

1. The over blusher! Wow you look really embarrassed 😉 I for one detest this look! Why oh why do people abuse their blush?

 

2. Way too much foundation! You are not a building so lay off on the foundation! Everyone wants flawless skin myself included, but when you have so much makeup on you look like a weird Barbie doll, you need to cut back a little!

 

3. Having lip liner waaaaaaaaaaay darker than your lipstick! Who wants to look like a coloring book that has yet to have been finished?

 

4. The drawn on eyebrow look! What is so wrong with natural looking brows that people decided to shave them off, and then draw them on?

 

5. The chameleon! when you put on your makeup it should look as though you have nothing on! Not that you have completely changed races! Wait a minute you used to be white right?

Another offense under this category is when people start mistaking you for a vampire! lay off the white powder! The goth look is not cool, the 90’s are over!

 

6. The desperately clinging to yester year look. Wearing just as much crazy makeup that you did when you were 20 even though you’re in your later years, is just as ridiculous as a 20-year-old walking out of the house in a onesie!

Oh my just so much wrong in this picture!

There are a great many other offenses I could name off, but the main point I am trying to make is please people remember that makeup is supposed to enhance what is already beautiful about you!  Just remember that less is more! Hope you enjoyed this post guys! Happy Wednesday!

“Can’t go yet”

 Well I suppose now that it is 2012 and everyone is chattering about 2011. Am I the only one who finds it funny that when the year is over people can’t seem to let it go? They need to talk about what happened, what they learned, what they saw, and where they traveled. I too like to reflect on things, to look back just to see how far I have come. However I can’t help but think of all the things I want to do, not what I have done. So in a way here are my resolutions, not so much for this year but for life! Here are the places I can’t go to yet, but have to see before I go for good.

1. Greece! It has been a dream of mine to go to Greece ever since I was a little girl. My late father always wanted to go, he said he wanted to see the ruins before they were gone! He also wanted to take my mother with, but he never got the chance, so when I go my mother will be going with me, taking us full circle and it will be without a doubt one of the most meaningful trips of my life. 

 

can you believe how blue that water is?

2. Ireland! Yet another place I have wanted to visit for a long time. I just love all the beautiful green rolling hills in the countryside and the quaint little pubs in the city! Not to mention that it is the Irish that have the cutest accents in the world! 😉

3. Italy! Who wouldn’t want to go to Italy? The food, the landscape, the cars, and let us not forget THE SHOES! Those Italians sure know how to make a great shoe!

4. France! I took two years of French and forgot almost all of it! But C’est la vie. 😉 France just seems to be a culmination of what makes me happy, beautiful architecture, fabulous foods, beautiful fashion, and countless photo-ops. The French are supposedly rude but I don’t care if that is true or not, I will find that out for myself without any pre conceived notions.

5. Austria! More specifically Vienna during ball season! I mean Vienna is one of the few places that still parties like its 1699 😉 and how many opportunities does a girl get to wear a ball gown?

There are a great deal of other places I long to travel to, but I thought I might just share some of my top locations. What about you guys? Where are some of your dream destinations and why? I hope you enjoyed this post! Happy Tuesday!

What I hate about concerts!

So a couple of nights ago I went to a concert with one of my girlfriends, and we started talking about all the concerts we have gone to. Neither one of us has been to a ton! I have been to maybe 10 or so major-ish concerts (major-ish meaning I am not the only one who knows the songs haha). But all the concerts I have gone to share the same problems!

1. Expensive! Not only am I paying for a ticket, I will have to pay for gas (concerts are never closer than 30 minutes away), parking, and the next few are optional but you get my point, merch, drinks, and dinner! So all in all it is an expensive night out!

2. Cigarettes and the people who use them as a weapon! Seriously I don’t smoke so get away from me! Just because you don’t value your lungs doesn’t mean I don’t care about mine either!

3. The desperate drunk housewives who show up just to get wasted! Seriously do you even know who is playing the gig? Let alone where you actually are?

4. Skanky party girls!!! Seriously put some clothes on! Your lack of clothing does not make you look cool! It makes you look stupid! Seriously your mother said “show some respect for yourself” not show YOURSELF!

5. The screamers! Seriously what kind of world would it be if you acted the same way you do as an audience member in everyday settings? For instance “hi what can I get for you today?”- Coffee barista “AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!”-Screamer. Of course no one wants to play to a dead audience, but screaming at them through the whole show is just plain obnoxious, and a guarantee you will be the last person they want to talk to!

6. The jerk who thinks its ok to mosh to every song whether it’s metal or not! Look buddy if you have aggression issues take it out on a punching bag not me!

7. Lastly the person who doesn’t believe in using deodorant! It’s bad enough we are all crammed in here like sardines so at least put on some deodorant!!!

And after all that you walk away from the concert broke, exhausted, deaf from the sound guy thinking that turning the music all the way up is the real way to enjoy it, bruised from crazy mosh pit guy, and smelly from the stinky sweaty people around you! Yep concerts sure sound like fun huh? But seriously with all the negatives they can dish out, nothing beats getting to hear your favorite band, having them sound just as amazing live as they do on cd, and getting to shake their hand and realizing they are just as down to earth as you thought they were! Hope you enjoyed this post! Happy Monday everyone!

A Crime of Fashion!!!

I was talking with my mother a few days ago about how people will do the craziest things if they think it will make them look beautiful. This of course is nothing new to us, I mean even the Grimm’s brothers were well aware of this fact, in their story of Snow White (keep in mind Disney made it lot less dark) the evil queen tries to kill snow-white with a corset that is too tight!

The Grimm’s version of death by something too tight.

America’s version 😉

 Of course nowadays there are a lot less image obsessed murderers running amok. So let’s talk about some of the dangerous beauty products out there that frighten me. I’m not even talking about the poisonous products in our makeup, diet pills, or even they fact that people carve their bodies like Christmas hams resulting in a frightened mannequin look all in the hopes of looking younger and more beautiful.

Yikes!

I am talking about the beauty products that some people use everyday.

1. The heated eyelash curler. Are we as a people freaking nuts? Why oh why would anyone use a heating element near their eyes? I have sworn off even the regular eyelash curlers after hurting myself like I have never done before (I was careful but that sucker still got me)!

2. The Instyler, yet again another heating element I am scared to death of, I mean what could possibly go wrong its just a rotating curling iron? It’s not like it cold tangle and burn the heck out of you!

3. Vibrating mascara, I don’t know about the rest of you guys but the idea of my mascara wand moving is a little frightening, knowing me I would end up stabbing myself in the eye so no thank you.

4. Tanning beds, don’t get me wrong I love having a nice tan, but I figure that using some sunscreen and 20 minutes in the sun is safer and cheaper. I mean why on earth would I get into something that looks like a giant oven and pay to do so, I mean the thing is pretty much a person toaster, you go in white don’t come out til a golden brown, I just kind of grossed myself out, can’t eat toast for while now haha.

5. Waxing, who on earth thought of this??? Hmmm using a razor to remove hair seems dangerous I should probably just rip those suckers out! Really? Why do we do this to ourselves?

Look I get the need to improve yourself, I mean who doesn’t want to look beautiful right? But let’s learn to draw a line (and not the ones that plastic surgeons draw on you before they cut you up) I’m talking about knowing when enough is enough. I like a little help, there is nothing wrong with using beauty products, but there is definitely something wrong about not knowing your own value as a person. Learn to love yourself for who you are, otherwise you might wind up loving your new and improved self to death haha. Happy Tuesday.