Single and Knowing Your Own Worth

Being a single person you can certainly get bombarded with clichés. There are the “supportive you’ll find someone eventually” clichés… It will happen when you least expect it, or just stop looking and they’ll find you. Then there are the other clichés, “the not so hopeful relationships are overrated” clichés, trust me you’re not missing out on anything, or it’s better because you don’t have to care. I don’t have to care? Are you kidding me? Honestly the main pit fall for single persons is that we care too much! We so desperately want to love someone and have them love us we jump heart first! The results are almost always disastrous! Falling too hard and too fast is something that is glorified in movies, books, and music, yet is completely inappropriate, and honestly horrifying for the other person in real life.

Too hard too fast!!!

I certainly know a thing or two about falling too hard and too fast. My first experience with this was probably around the age of 15, horrible age no? He was older, cooler, seemed to like me too, and was oh so cute. We talked a long while, and it seemed like he should make a move any day now and ask me out. Well he didn’t, he ignored me completely, then got himself a girlfriend (weird enough she sort of looked like me). I was crushed! I wondered what I did wrong, why didn’t he like me, and all the other things that cross a heartbroken 15 year olds mind. I eventually realized what he did was downright rude and I was much better off without him.

I wasn’t this mean…I just thought it was really funny.

Then  I was around 18 and a new guy came along…he was older, cooler, and crazy cute too. He and I talked a lot, sending messages to each other basically every other day, sharing our likes and dislikes, telling story after story, and asking question after question. I just “knew” things would work out for me this time, how could they not? He obviously liked me and we had soooo much in common! Well surprise surprise, things didn’t work out. He too gradually alienated me, no explanation, just a complete shut out. I was crushed again and couldn’t believe it! How could this be? We were so perfect for each other! Well this one took a long while to get over, ice cream and cookies were consumed, tears fell, and sad country songs were sung..horribly I might add, but I did eventually get over him. I realized it was through no fault of my own that things didn’t work out. I mean it hurt as bad as it did partly because I cared “too much”. But it wasn’t all my fault, and that felt great to know.

There have since been guys that caught my attention, as well as a bit of my heart. But obviously since I am still single it’s safe to say no relationship has worked out yet. I’m fine with it though, I really truly am! This doesn’t mean I have given up on the idea of eventually finding someone, it’s just I’m perfectly happy with my life. I don’t get anywhere near as devastated when things don’t go the way I wanted them too. Being single is not the worst thing in the world…the worst thing in the world is not knowing you own worth. I realized that’s why I had hurt so much when I was let down. I thought that it had must’ve been my fault. When in reality it wasn’t. I’m not saying that every relationship failure you have is not your fault, what I am saying though is learn from that experience, and know what you have to offer. Know your own worth, and enjoy your life to the fullest whether you’re with someone or not. I can expect to have my heartbroken a few more times because well… that’s life. But in the meantime I will be living it to the fullest, and will not be measuring my success in life by relationship status.

 What are some of the heartaches you’ve gone through? How did you get over them? Are you currently in the process of getting over someone? I would love some feedback on the topic, hearing from you guys is always a highlight of my day! Hope you all enjoyed the post, and wishing you all a very happy Monday!

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Lifting Your Spirit.

 This past week I was going through a bit of a blue funk, you know the ones that show up for no real reason, and seem to just suck the life out of you? No one likes to be unhappy…but I am one of those people who really can’t stand it, I feel whiny and obnoxious as heck. So I decided to lift my spirits with a few simple techniques, and I am feeling so much better that I thought I might share these tips with all of you.

Realize how you feel is temporary and that you are going to get over it.

Things will get better I promise.

Treat yourself to something special…no I am not saying turn into someone who fills the void in their life with things. I am saying indulge a little, nothing too crazy but something you don’t always do.

I treated myself to some Starbucks…I basically never go to starbucks so it was nice to indulge in some chocolate beverage therapy.

Laugh! Laughter is the best medicine after all. 

I watched Jim Gaffigan’s comedy special Mr Universe and laughed my head off.

Then I watched The Marx brothers’ movie Duck Soup! I laughed so hard my stomach hurt…that’s just how hilarious this movie is. I would highly recommend this movie to anyone!

Get some sun.

Since the season Texas currently is in is Hell… oops I mean summer I kept the sunning to a minimum (less than 5 minutes) even though I was not able to stay out in the sun for very long I immediately noticed an improvement in my mood.

Get movin!

Now if running is not your thing take a walk or jog, but get out and get moving. Trust me the endorphins are totally worth it.

Socialize!

There is nothing like friends to lift your mood. Even if you’re not able to actually go and see your friend/friends call them up and chat. Never have I talked/hung out with friend and found myself upset afterwards, friends are great for listening to your problems and bringing you past them!

I hope you found some of this information to be helpful, and if any of you have some mood lifting techniques feel free to share. Happy Monday love you guys!

Why I Will Never Be Considered “Cool”

So let’s all be honest we have all tried extremely hard to be cool at one point in time, heck some of us are still trying to be “cool”. I think I must have been around 8 or so when I really started mimicking my peers in order to fit in, well sense that was when Britney Spears and belly shirts were the height of fashion, you can imagine that mom snapped me out of that one real fast haha. After that little incident, my mom was really pushing for me to be my own person. And I must say it worked, so thanks mom thanks for making me uncool. It’s just about the best thing that ever happened to me. So I thought I might list a few of my uncool qualities.

1. I am beyond old fashioned! Hey I may only be 20…but I am close to 80 years old in my views on life.

If my appearance matched my personality 😉

2. I find sports a form of public humiliation and torture. Growing up in a household of Texas boys this made me incredibly uncool.

I was always on the recieving end of any sports “accident”. Let’s just say having your arm pulled out of socket twice is a good limit. Thanks Michael and James!

3. My idea of current music is Johnny Cash.

“you kids turn that racket down I can’t stand that noise you call music!!!”

4. My idea of a party is… a tea party!

“I do declare Gertrude this is one of the most outrageous get togethers I have ever experienced”

5. I read and not because I have to.

“Is this what heaven looks like?”

6. I’m always a friend never a girlfriend.

Being a friend to the guys was not only “uncool” it made a lot of girls hate me!

7. I dance like Bill Cosby! Even when there is no music.

These are my mad dance skills. You jelly?

So all in all learn to embrace your own inner dork! You will be a much happier you.

Happy Wednesday Everyone!!!

What I hate about concerts!

So a couple of nights ago I went to a concert with one of my girlfriends, and we started talking about all the concerts we have gone to. Neither one of us has been to a ton! I have been to maybe 10 or so major-ish concerts (major-ish meaning I am not the only one who knows the songs haha). But all the concerts I have gone to share the same problems!

1. Expensive! Not only am I paying for a ticket, I will have to pay for gas (concerts are never closer than 30 minutes away), parking, and the next few are optional but you get my point, merch, drinks, and dinner! So all in all it is an expensive night out!

2. Cigarettes and the people who use them as a weapon! Seriously I don’t smoke so get away from me! Just because you don’t value your lungs doesn’t mean I don’t care about mine either!

3. The desperate drunk housewives who show up just to get wasted! Seriously do you even know who is playing the gig? Let alone where you actually are?

4. Skanky party girls!!! Seriously put some clothes on! Your lack of clothing does not make you look cool! It makes you look stupid! Seriously your mother said “show some respect for yourself” not show YOURSELF!

5. The screamers! Seriously what kind of world would it be if you acted the same way you do as an audience member in everyday settings? For instance “hi what can I get for you today?”- Coffee barista “AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!”-Screamer. Of course no one wants to play to a dead audience, but screaming at them through the whole show is just plain obnoxious, and a guarantee you will be the last person they want to talk to!

6. The jerk who thinks its ok to mosh to every song whether it’s metal or not! Look buddy if you have aggression issues take it out on a punching bag not me!

7. Lastly the person who doesn’t believe in using deodorant! It’s bad enough we are all crammed in here like sardines so at least put on some deodorant!!!

And after all that you walk away from the concert broke, exhausted, deaf from the sound guy thinking that turning the music all the way up is the real way to enjoy it, bruised from crazy mosh pit guy, and smelly from the stinky sweaty people around you! Yep concerts sure sound like fun huh? But seriously with all the negatives they can dish out, nothing beats getting to hear your favorite band, having them sound just as amazing live as they do on cd, and getting to shake their hand and realizing they are just as down to earth as you thought they were! Hope you enjoyed this post! Happy Monday everyone!