Single and Knowing Your Own Worth

Being a single person you can certainly get bombarded with clichés. There are the “supportive you’ll find someone eventually” clichés… It will happen when you least expect it, or just stop looking and they’ll find you. Then there are the other clichés, “the not so hopeful relationships are overrated” clichés, trust me you’re not missing out on anything, or it’s better because you don’t have to care. I don’t have to care? Are you kidding me? Honestly the main pit fall for single persons is that we care too much! We so desperately want to love someone and have them love us we jump heart first! The results are almost always disastrous! Falling too hard and too fast is something that is glorified in movies, books, and music, yet is completely inappropriate, and honestly horrifying for the other person in real life.

Too hard too fast!!!

I certainly know a thing or two about falling too hard and too fast. My first experience with this was probably around the age of 15, horrible age no? He was older, cooler, seemed to like me too, and was oh so cute. We talked a long while, and it seemed like he should make a move any day now and ask me out. Well he didn’t, he ignored me completely, then got himself a girlfriend (weird enough she sort of looked like me). I was crushed! I wondered what I did wrong, why didn’t he like me, and all the other things that cross a heartbroken 15 year olds mind. I eventually realized what he did was downright rude and I was much better off without him.

I wasn’t this mean…I just thought it was really funny.

Then  I was around 18 and a new guy came along…he was older, cooler, and crazy cute too. He and I talked a lot, sending messages to each other basically every other day, sharing our likes and dislikes, telling story after story, and asking question after question. I just “knew” things would work out for me this time, how could they not? He obviously liked me and we had soooo much in common! Well surprise surprise, things didn’t work out. He too gradually alienated me, no explanation, just a complete shut out. I was crushed again and couldn’t believe it! How could this be? We were so perfect for each other! Well this one took a long while to get over, ice cream and cookies were consumed, tears fell, and sad country songs were sung..horribly I might add, but I did eventually get over him. I realized it was through no fault of my own that things didn’t work out. I mean it hurt as bad as it did partly because I cared “too much”. But it wasn’t all my fault, and that felt great to know.

There have since been guys that caught my attention, as well as a bit of my heart. But obviously since I am still single it’s safe to say no relationship has worked out yet. I’m fine with it though, I really truly am! This doesn’t mean I have given up on the idea of eventually finding someone, it’s just I’m perfectly happy with my life. I don’t get anywhere near as devastated when things don’t go the way I wanted them too. Being single is not the worst thing in the world…the worst thing in the world is not knowing you own worth. I realized that’s why I had hurt so much when I was let down. I thought that it had must’ve been my fault. When in reality it wasn’t. I’m not saying that every relationship failure you have is not your fault, what I am saying though is learn from that experience, and know what you have to offer. Know your own worth, and enjoy your life to the fullest whether you’re with someone or not. I can expect to have my heartbroken a few more times because well… that’s life. But in the meantime I will be living it to the fullest, and will not be measuring my success in life by relationship status.

 What are some of the heartaches you’ve gone through? How did you get over them? Are you currently in the process of getting over someone? I would love some feedback on the topic, hearing from you guys is always a highlight of my day! Hope you all enjoyed the post, and wishing you all a very happy Monday!

Today I Met The Boy I’m Gonna Marry!

The other day I was made painfully aware of something, on the one rare day that I decide to leave the house sans makeup and socially acceptable clothes, is when all the cute men in the world decide to go where I am. For instance my average joe cashier has suddenly been replaced by a dead ringer for Michael Buble, the coffee guy is now some new rock star looking beauty, and all of the men where I am shopping look like they stepped out of a Calvin Klein ad. And as if looking like some stressed out college student in front of a crowd of should-be-male-models wasn’t enough, that is also the day every woman decides she is a stepford wife and looks amazing! So there I am sticking out like a sore thumb. In my workout clothes, a sorry excuse for a ponytail, and zero makeup, wishing that I had put a little more effort into how I look.

How the guys look

How the other women look

and then there is me *sigh*

My confidence was taking a real beating, until I noticed something, the guys noticed me. At first I thought they couldn’t believe how hideous I looked, but I realized there were smiling and checking me out! Seriously what the heck? I was completely dumbfounded, turns out looking relaxed makes people feel relaxed around you, and it makes you way more approachable. Now I am not saying turn into some unkempt slob, but you can relax. Natural beauty is rare, and rarity is beautiful. So be confident in who you are whether your dressed to kill or dressed for a nap haha. I hope you all enjoyed this post. And let me know if anyone of you have had similar stories! And as always Happy Wednesday!

Who? Me?

Wow I am 20! That really happened fast, honestly after age 15 my life kinda flew past me. Which got me thinking what a crazy conversation it would be if 20-year-old me were to speak to 15-year-old me. Young me would not believe all of the changes, like…

1. You have figured out what you want to do the rest of your life! And you don’t go to college to do it, so don’t let everyone pester you about how “You’ll never have a good career without college”.

 

2. You write…and actually enjoy it! Ya you have a blog and everything!

This may be one of the most shocking facts!

3. You jog, and get depressed if you don’t!

Ok so I may not look this fabulous whilst running, but I’m getting closer! But I was wrong before, THIS is the most shocking fact! haha.

 

4. Ya you know Mr. Perfect you are convinced you’re in love with right now? Turns out mom is right, he is a complete troll. But you learn about life, love, and yourself. So it all works out for you…Can’t say the same for him however.

 

5. Boyfriend? Fiance? Hahahaha no! You are married to work, and you’re cool with that. Turns out the overbearing brothers are now ok with you dating…mostly because you’re not.

 

6. You’re really happy! You still don’t have life figured out, but you are working it out. Goals are being accomplished, lifelong friends are being acquired, and lessons are being learned. Sure it’s tough at times but you have more confidence than you ever thought possible, and you have the best people around you!

So you have a lot to look forward to! Enjoy life and know there is much more to come.

 

I hope you guys all enjoyed this post. What are somethings that would shock younger you? I would love some feedback. Happy Monday!

 

I’ve got a crush on you.

Wow Valentines is coming up quite fast! And with that in mind I though I might do a little post on some of my celebrity crushes…not your traditionally attractive one’s though, I mean any girl with eyes can see Johnny Depp is oh so very handsome! I am talking about those crushes that you lie about having, because if anyone knew they would mock you endlessly. So because I don’t really care what people think and I enjoy a good laugh, even when it’s at my own expense, I thought I would post about my embarrassing celebrity crushes.

1.Jon Goodman.

I honestly think the main reason I find Jon Goodman so adorable is because he reminds me of my pop, he’s a big dude, with a great smile, awesome sense of humour, and fabulous voice…what’s not to love?

2.Mr. Rogers.

I was glued to the tv when Mr. Rogers was on! He was so sweet and his show was so entertaining!

3.Ty Burrell.

So I love the show Modern Family…It is beyond hilarious. But as I was watching it I realized something slightly frightening, I have an ever-growing crush on Ty Burrell! I mean he isn’t exactly unattractive, but he genuinely looks like he could be the father of one of my friends (I am not one of “those girls”) so in that sense my crush is a little embarrassing.

4.Ben Savage.

Anyone who watched Boy Meets World knows that Cory’s friend Shawn was the one all the girls loved. But not me, I was smitten with Cory, he was funny, awkward, adorable, and had super curly hair…just about everything I fall for.

5.Dick Van Dyke!

My first introduction to Dick Van Dyke was either Marry Poppins or Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, it was love at first sight is all I remember, I just love his sweet personality and that infectious smirk he has working for him.

I hope you guys got a kick out of this post, and feel free to share any of the embarrassing crushes you had or still have. Anyway Happy Tuesday. 🙂

 

Valentine Plans For A Super Single Girl!

With Valentines fast approaching I thought I might do a little post on what Valentines means for those of us who are not so fortunate in love, as the rest of you coupled up show offs. 😉

Step 1. Pretend that we are happy for our gushing friend, who is bragging about how they have the best significant other in the world.

“I’m happy for you…really I am”

Step 2. Mock affectionate couples from afar.

“Hahahaha do you realize how ridiculous the two of you look?”

Step 3. Buy pity party supplies for your evening alone…all alone *sigh*.

Step 4. Stalk your exes and their relationships on facebook! And console yourself with the fact “you are much prettier than her”

“I have no idea what he sees in her”

Step 5. After all that stalking burnt some calories you decide you derserve a little Ben and Jerry’s, and by a little I mean eating your weight in the stuff.

“this ought to do…for now anyways”

Step 6. Throw yourself on the floor like a small child who can not get their way, and wallow in self pity!

Step 7. Get up brush yourself off and realize you feel a lot better, and that you are thankful that this day comes only once a year.

I really hope you guys got a kick out of this post! Happy Tuesday!

 

Why I should’ve grown up in the 50’s!

It is no secret that I adore the 50’s. So I thought I might do a post on why I should’ve been around during that time!

1. The cars!!! Oh my word the cars from the 50’s are art in motion!

2. The music! I for one am more of a Cash fan than a Presley! I mean Elvis is great and all, but no one can touch Johnny Cash!

3. The hairstyles! No lazy ugly hair here! Even when the women would put their hair up in a ponytail it was still gorgeous!

4. The clothes! My goodness why oh why are these styles not the norm anymore?

5. What was considered beautiful for the time! Back when the women who were the icons of beauty actually had normal looking figures! Now I will not say only real women have curves, because there are plenty of girls who are naturally very slim! All I am saying is that the beauty industry and media of today push girls to unrealistic “body ideals”! It is not ok to over eat nor is it ok to starve yourself! Natural is always more beautiful! So accept the body you have and take care of it! Sorry enough preaching 😉

6. The way guys looked! I for one am a total sucker for a retro style on a man!

Oh my goodness I just love Bing Crosby and Bob Hope! Now there are some funny men!

7. Dating! Now I know the dating scene in the 50’s was probably nowhere near as innocent as it has been portrayed, but it was probably a good deal more innocent than today’s dating! The rules of dating were a good deal more clear then too! The guy’s asked the girls out, the guys picked up the check, or they made sure you knew that you were going dutch, and they were good deal more respectful of personal boundaries. Boy things sure were different back then!

I really hope you all enjoyed this post and my rambling 😉 Happy Tuesday! I love you guys!

 

Pin Curls

As someone who adores all things retro, I have recently been trying more vintage ways to style my hair, a week or so ago I tried pin curls and here is how I did them.

1. I started with clean hair (I didn’t have any product so my curls fell at the end of the day, next time I will use some gel or something).

This is what my hair looks like without any styling kinda boring.

2. I parted my hair, and put half in a ponytail holder to keep it out-of-the-way, then I rolled my hair all the way to my scalp, then pinned it with bobby pins.

What it looked like after all my hair was pinned up…ignore my silly face!

3. Then I went to sleep…pretty easy step huh? I found that pin curls are a good deal more comfortable to sleep in than sponge rollers or rag curls. However the pin curls are a good deal looser than what I have achieved with the rag curls or sponge rollers.

I must say I quite like the romantic look of these curls, next time I will use some product and let you guys know if the curls stay any better. Hope everyone has a great weekend and New Years!